Safety Alert: Domestic violence abuse awareness advocates remind computer use can be monitored. If you are afraid your Internet usage might be monitored then call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text telephone 1-800-787-3224.
Trained experts with The National Domestic Violence Hotline are available to talk confidentially with anyone experiencing domestic violence 24 hours, seven days a week at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
Local resources are also available in the Mid-South if shelter is needed. The YMCA shelter is just one of dozens that takes in women looking to transition in their lives. Call their 24/7 hotline at 901-725-4277.
It's not always easy to tell at the beginning of a relationship if it will become abusive, The National Domestic Violence Hotline writes on their website.
They say many abusive partners may seem perfect in the early stages of a relationship. Possessive and controlling behaviors don't always appear overnight, but rather emerge and intensify as the relationship grows. Click here to read more on The National Domestic Violence Hotline's website.
At the national hotline, the Power & Control Wheel (as seen in the article, or click here) is used to describe most accurately what is occurs in an abusive relationship.
Below are also warning signs and red flags provided by the national hotline:
- Telling you that you can never do anything right
- Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away
- Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members
- Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs
- Controlling every penny spent in the household
- Taking your money or refusing to give you money for expenses
- Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you
- Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do
- Preventing you from making your own decisions
- Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children
- Preventing you from working or attending school
- Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets
- Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons
- Pressuring you to have sex when you don't want to or do things sexually you're not comfortable with
- Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol
To learn more about abuse, visit The National Domestic Violence Hotline's website. Also, you can call the Family Safety Center Memphis for help at 901-222-4400.