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Police given wrong address an hour before man sets himself on fire

Jared McLemore (Source: Shelby County Sheriff's Office) Jared McLemore (Source: Shelby County Sheriff's Office)
MEMPHIS, TN (WMC) -

The man who lit himself on fire on Facebook Live had a restraining order filed against him just hours before he killed himself.

Investigators said Jared McLemore poured gas on himself before lighting a fire and running inside Murphy's in Midtown.

McLemore had a history of domestic violence against his ex-girlfriend. Her family said she filed a restraining order against him the same day he killed himself.

"He came in and grabbed her," the woman's sister, Sara Moore, said. " Then [McLemore] went across the street and doused himself with more accelerant and lit himself on fire."

Video then shows a ball of fire run into Murphy's where McLemore's ex-girlfriend was working.

McLemore's family said he suffered for years from bipolar disorder and was in active treatment.

Court documents show McLemore had a history of domestic violence with his ex-girlfriend. 

Court documents show in August 2016, McLemore accused his then girlfriend of flirting with her co-workers. He allegedly got a knife, pointed it toward her and threatened to kill her. The next day, as Mclemore's girlfriend was visiting her mother, McLemore stood on the sidewalk and yelled "I'm going to kill you." On a third occasion, court records report McLemore acted erratically and ended up driving off in his girlfriend's car. McLemore was sentenced to probation. 

Family members said McLemore's ex-girlfriend is grieving for him.

"She did love Jared at one point, so she is grieving for him," Moore said. 

Moore said her sister Alyssa broke up with McLemore in August last year after she called the police because of alleged abuse from him. McLemore was put on five years probation in April. But then, Moore said McLemore showed up in her sister's life last Wednesday at the apartment the sisters share.

"Came up to her window threatening to kill her with a gun, threatening to kill her with a knife," Moore said.

Police came over and took a report, but McLemore had already left. Moore's friends posted on social media that police didn't respond when called on Friday before the fire. But, in a statement from MPD, police said "officers responded to a complaint call approximately an hour prior to a fire call. Caller advised that they were concerned about the victim's well-being and that victim was in the area of East Parkway and Poplar."

Police searched for the victim and even detained one man for an hour before realizing he was the wrong person. Police had been given the wrong address. 

"I wish there were more steps that we could take to protect survivors of domestic abuse," Moore said.

Domestic violence experts said if you're in an abusive relationship, get out as soon as possible.

"We want to encourage victims that it's not your fault what that victim chooses to do to themselves," domestic violence expert Mia Harvey said.

Veronique Black with the National Alliance on Mental Illness said mentally ill people frequently do not look at their illness realistically and don't take their medications. 

"It's a very, very big problem. Either the person feels like I'm OK now, I don't need it anymore, side effects can be harsh," Black said.

The family released the following statement: 

I am relieved to respond to the outpour of support, hope, and love that I've been given.

We are holding a support group for all of those affected by this tragedy. If you have suffered even the slightest distress because of this, I plead that you attend if you're capable (physically and mentally). THE EVENT HAS BEEN MOVED TO MINGLEWOOD HALL; a generous donation was made by Minglewood Hall on behalf of those suffering. They (and I) want to ensure there is enough room for everybody to attend. Those who witnessed the event in person or online are welcome to come and get more information on how to heal from this crisis. Those who are DEEPLY affected by this may want to pass- there is no need to relive the moment if you are unable to process it yet, and you will still have a plethora of resources available to you privately. Please get in touch as needed. I deeply encourage anyone who wants their communities' public support to attend. This event will be at Inglewood hall THIS FRIDAY May 19th at 6PM. There will be 4 counselors there to help us navigate the road ahead of us. This nightmare has devastated countless people, everyone somehow affected... from the people who were there as bystanders and nothing more, to those who've known him his entire life; from his family (particularly his mother, father, and brother), to my friends and my loved ones- we all feel confusion and question why this happened. For now, I simply beg of us to take care of each other, be kind and soft. The worst thing that could come out of this is more needless suffering. The way the community has reached out to me has given me a sense of hope; one that I hope to extend back to the community the moment I'm ready.
There are a few people in particular that I feel compelled to thank publicly- my sister Sara, my mother Catherine Glosson, Paul Garner for the most obvious of reasons, Stephanie and Javi, Steve and everyone who courageously tried to help, Jessie, a warrior and survivor of domestic abuse who went straight into Momma mode when she found out what happened, Mitchell, Will, and Pickle for keeping my mind from wandering too far, Daniel and Lily for the half a dozen cupcakes. There are so many more of you. Every time I read your names, my heart heals. The support, compassion, and empathy are so surreal and overwhelming, I haven't even been able to fully comprehend how lucky I am for everyone in my life- I may never be able to fully articulate my generosity. My heart goes out to EVERYONE hurting because of this event. I hope all of you have a friend to talk to- you have me, at the very least. Much love to you.

One more thing- I want everyone who can to go and support Allison Jasper's event at the Hi Tone this Saturday, May 20th at 7PM. It's called GRRL FEST in support of the Southern Girls Rock Camp, and I couldn't think of a better way to give back to the community in this moment than by donating to a camp that teaches young women about music. I feel I would be expressionless had I never learned.

So much love to everyone during this time (and all others).

To learn more about abuse, visit The National Domestic Violence Hotline's website. Also, you can call the Family Safety Center Memphis for help at 901-222-4400.

For more domestic violence resources in the Mid-South, click here.

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